I wrote this a long time ago after my daughter's heart was broken for the upteenth (and final) time. It seems I wrote a lot about broken hearts while she was growing up — afterall, the teenage years are the most emotional and full of disappointments phase we encounter as we mature, at least in my opinion and experience, more so than any other time of our lives. But, for the most part, and for most of us, we seem to muddle through it and survive anyway. Lord only knows how. In any event, this last broken heart she experienced mended beautifully turning into a 13-year relationship and a 7-year marriage with three gorgeous grandchildren for me — er.......I should say, Great Danes.
THE SECRET PLACE
My daughter's cat, Carmel, had to be put to sleep because of kidney stones.He was sick for a long time and unfortunately we did not notice his illness until it was too late because we were in the process of building a house and living with friends, our animals, one dog and one cat, were living with my brother.The hardest part, was telling our young daughter, Barbi. I took her aside, and told her, "honey, Carmel is sick and will have to go somewhere that animals go when they're ill." "What kind of place mommy?" "It's a secret place." "Where is this place?" "It's a place that cannot be described, only felt.When I was your age, my dog Ginger got hit by a car.I cried for days and days until my mother sat me down and told me not to feel bad for Ginger because she went to a secret place.When I asked my mother where the secret place was, she said:`The secret place is nowhere on the map.It's not even a place you can see.It's a place that you feel and it's full of happiness, love and peace.It what makes us deal with sadness, troubles, and feelings of loneliness.It's where we all go when we feel the need to be alone and sort through our feelings and thoughts.' "But mother, I don't understand.How will I know how to get to this place?" "When you're feeling sad, lonely, angry or just can't solve a problem, you'll know how to get to this secret place and when you get there, all of your questions will be answered." My daughter never really understood or questioned this place again until just recently after she had a fight with her boyfriend George. "Mother, I need to go that secret place.George and I had a fight.I love him and I know he loves me but I fear it's over between us.Tell me how to get to the secret place. "All you have to do honey, is look within yourself.Sort out your feelings.Find out what the problem is, what caused it, and the answer will be there for you." "Mom, it's not that easy." "Yes it is.If you search within yourself, know yourself, and love yourself, the answer will be there." "But mom, you always told me to go the secret place but I never knew where it was.Where is it? "The secret place is within you.
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